13th stepper
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Noun edit
13th stepper (plural 13th steppers)
- A more experienced member of a 12 step recovery program who targets newcomers for romantic or sexual relationships.
- 1996, Wallace, David Foster, Infinite Jest[1]:
- One of Boston AA’s stronger suggestions is that newcomers avoid all romantic relationships for at least a year. So somebody with some sober time predating and trying to seduce a newcomer is almost tantamount to rape, is the Boston consensus. Not that it isn’t done. But the ones that do it never have the kind of sobriety anybody else respects or wants for themselves. A 13th-Stepper is still running from the mirror himself.
- 2013, “Rapist Anonymous”, in Law & Order: Special Victims Unit[2]:
- Amanda Rollins: You went undercover to an A. A. meeting? […]
Nick Amaro: Rollins, look. I went out with some of the other guys from the group. All right, they said Nate preys on women new to the program. They call him a "13th-stepper".
- 2016, Guy B Yeadon, Guy B. Yeadon, MA Counseling Psychology[3]:
- Guy told me that he was a “13th stepper” in AA for many years and had sex with over 200 women.