LDAR: This amounts to a directive to “lay down and rot,” or just give up. It could be a recommendation to become a "NEET" (see below) who leeches off his family or the government, or even to commit suicide via "the rope."
2020, anonymous, quoted in Annie Jones, "Incels and the Manosphere: Tracking Men's Movements Online", thesis submitted to the University of Central Florida, page 67:
Are you incel? Are you a 1-4/10 on the decile? Do you earn less than $60,000 per year 2019 USD? Do you have no extraordinary traits, or abilities such as extremely hi IQ/creativity or exceptional strength? If answered yes to all of those questions then you may find yourself LDARing.
2020, anonymous, quoted in Melinda Karlsson & Terese Wisberg, "'Live to be mogged. The truecel tale': En kritisk diskursanalys av forumen incels.co och looksmax.me", thesis submitted to the University of Gävle, page 34:
If you think about it, what's the alternative? Just sitting around and LDARing once you hit 30? If surgery offers the only possibility… …then you basically have no choice but togo for it
2020, Mark Marveggio, "The Affective Practices of Incels: A Social Identity Approach to the Construction of Incel Identities", thesis submitted to The University of Adelaide, page 31:
This is how, alongside the empiricist repertoire, “Is there no solution to this and do we just have to LDAR?”
2020, Emily Price, "We live in a society: Violence and radicalization in the Internet Manosphere", thesis submitted to Arcadia University, page 18:
It is an ideology that breeds despair, and, thus, perhaps the only solution one might find is to LDAR – or, failing that, seek retributionary violence.
2020, Katrine Rummelhoff, "Incels and Misogyny; what’s so appealing about hatred?", thesis submitted to the University of Oslo, page 30:
In “taking the blackpill” incels admit to themselves that “its over”, that no amount of effort will change the way they are perceived, and that they may as well give up and LDAR (lay down and rot).
2021, Will Gerdes-McClain, "Differents: Essays About a Human (and Humans)", thesis submitted to Georgia College, page 104:
However, even taking the blackpill and accepting this harsh reality, some of them are reluctant to LDAR (“Lay Down and Rot”), choosing instead to do what they can to try to ascend.
2021, Elizabeth Ann Hintz & Jonathan Troy Baker, "A Performative Face Theory Analysis of Online Faceworkby the Formerly Involuntarily Celibate", International Journal of Communication, Volume 15 (2021), page 3050:
This perspective is further ossified by the blackpill, a bio-essentialist view whereby a man’s sexual marketplace value is predetermined based on genetic composition, and therefore involuntary celibacy is permanent and hopeless, and the logical solution is to LDAR (lay down and rot; Incels Wiki, 2020).
