[…] I don’t know how many times I erased something good I wrote here and tried to diminish what I know is right, I changed from ‘being autistic is a good thing’ to ‘being autistic is not such a bad thing’, I changed so I could make allistic (non-autistic) people comfortable, […]
Due to confluence of identities, many participants take pains to list what privileges and "disprivileges" they possess. The Tumblr "Fractured Refuge" states that such a list provides accountability when talking about social justice issues:
"I am white. I am allistic. (I am not autistic.) I am dyadically sexed. (I am not intersexed.) […]
As with the rest of the article, I am following the conventions of the disabled people I am discussing. Autistics prefer to be called "autistic" and perceive the term "people with autism" as an allistic (non-autistic) phrase.
Most shockingly, one mother admits that she wanted to commit a murder/suicide by driving herself and her [autistic] daughter off a bridge, which she found preferable to her daughter "not making any progress." She states the only reason she didn't go through with it is for the benefit of her [second] allistic daughter.
2015, JoSelle Vanderhooft, "Preface", in Accessing the Future (eds. Djibril al-Ayad & Kathryn Allan), Lulu.com (2015), ISBN 9780957397545, page vii, published 22 April 2015:
An autistic in “Lyric” uses a program to communicate with the allistic (non-autistic) people around them while reaching out to a Frankenstein's monster of a creature that the neurotypical world can't figure out what to do with.