is "cum" the right spelling for "to have an orgasm"?? shouldn't it be "come", i thought "cum" is like "cuz" of "because('cause)"

'cum' is generally the word for male or female ejaculate, with the verb 'to cum' indicating the action of ejaculating.
"Cum" is derived from the verb come, with the spelling modified for differentiation. It is still acceptable to write "I’m about to come", but the spelling cum has become standard. —Stephen 15:44, 17 May 2007


I think the term is actually refering to climaxing or having an orgasm, rather than semen. Female ejaculation is dubious.

First recorded use of "cum" in sexual context?? (English language)Edit

Does anyone know the first recorded use of the word "cum" in the sexual context, in the English language?

First recorded use in this sense in the 1920's. —Stephen 16:29, 30 September 2008 (UTC)
Could we have a reference?

Is is nice to ask "did you cum"?Edit

My girfriend speaks English and my English is not very strong. What style is "cum"? If I ask her "did you cum?" will that sound rude or harsh? Is it a loving way of asking if she had an orgasm? -- 14:14, 9 January 2012 (UTC)

  • You really should be able to tell (in any language). SemperBlotto 15:50, 9 January 2012 (UTC)
It is rude. You should ask her, "did you climax?" —Stephen (Talk) 17:32, 9 January 2012 (UTC)

It's definitely not rude, but many girls may find it annoying. No one wants to be interrogated about how it went right after sex.

It is not rude or polite by itself. Since this has turned into a communication advice discussion, mine is this: Sit down with your girlfriend, when you are not having sex, and have not just finished, and are not going to immediately start, (for example, out at a restaurant or in a cafe, etc.) and tell her how much you enjoy being with her, and whatever other positive things are true for you, and that you enjoy having sex with her, and you wonder if it might be interesting and healthy to talk about your sex life together. Then tell her why you want to know if she came or not, how you will think or what you will do depending on her answer, and then ask her how she would feel about hearing this kind of question. :D 12:26, 7 February 2015 (UTC)
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