pillow princess
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pillow princess (plural pillow princesses)
- (slang, originally LGBT) A person (typically a lesbian) who wants to receive sexual pleasure but is not interested in giving it.
- Antonym: stone (adj.)
- 1992, Deneuve, volume 2, FRS Enterprises, page 64:
- These roles extended into the bedroom, where the butch would initiate and give sexual pleasure and the femme would play “pillow princess” and receive — never the other way around [...]
- 2009, Bianca D. M. Wilson, “Black Lesbian Gender and Sexual Culture: Celebration and Resistance”, in Culture, Health & Sexuality, volume 11, number 3, , →ISSN, →JSTOR, page 309:
- Similarly, whereas pillow princesses and other femmes appear to fall in line with heterosexual conceptualizations of sexual roles for women, where the woman’s role is the passive and non-assertive partner, they represent radical departures in other respects. In particular, participants indicated that ultra femmes and pillow princesses fully expected that the sexual act ended with their sexual climax.
- 2014, Joey Cooter, Butch, Femme, or Neither? What Owning These Identities Means[1], Johnson City, Tennessee: East Tennessee State University, retrieved 17 January 2022, page 31:
- Also, just because a respondent identified as femme did not mean she was not involved in or interested in a reciprocal sexual relationship. Many femmes made sure to point out they were not “pillow princesses,” meaning they are not just receivers. “My current girlfriend is very masculine looking, but I am far more aggressive than her in the bedroom, I don’t know if I can say this …but, well, I am no “pillow princess” (Sara).
- 2017, Karen Carpenter, “Women Who Have Sex with Women in Jamaica”, in Karen Carpenter, editor, Interweaving Tapestries of Culture and Sexuality in the Caribbean, Cham, Switzerland: Palgrave Macmillan, , →ISBN, page 79:
- A soft fem may also be referred to as a “pillow princess”. The pillow princess expects to be catered to in bed and while she may demand oral sex, does not feel compelled to perform it on her partner.